Blog Posts
Big Valley Therapy’s blog shares practical insights on relationships, emotional healing, and personal growth. Each post is designed to help readers deepen connection, understand themselves better, and navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity.
Breaking free from pornography is not just about saying “no” to urges—it’s […]
Something I’ve started doing every morning and evening might not seem like […]
“I’ll never be good enough.”
“I always fail.” Have you ever […]
Why Porn Addiction Recovery Is About More Than Stopping Are you […]
Five Color Check-In for Porn Recovery: A Mindful Tool for You and Your PartnerWhen managing porn recovery, simple check-in systems like green, yellow, and red […]
Understanding Sexual Compulsivity and Shame Sexual compulsivity can feel overwhelming and isolating. […]
Scrupulosity, also called Religious OCD, is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder where […]
Many people unknowingly fall into the trap of workaholism, believing that working […]
Making friends as an adult can feel really hard. Unlike school or […]
Dating After Marriage: Keep the Spark Alive 
Why Dating After Marriage Matters Many couples believe that once they’re […]
How to Strengthen Your Relationship When One Partner is on the Autism Spectrum 
Relationships can be challenging — but when one partner is on the […]
Negative self-talk is everywhere in our society. It can sneak in quietly, […]
Betrayal trauma can leave you feeling overwhelmed, heartbroken, and unsure how […]
Betrayal Trauma and Its Impact on Body Image Betrayal trauma can […]Bipolar disorder is a complex mental health condition that not only affects […]
We often hear the advice: “You just need to compromise.” But […]Trust is the foundation of every strong parent-child relationship 
. But many […]
. But many […]
Scrupulosity — a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) focused on religious or […]
In today’s fast-paced digital world, the term FOMO — Fear of Missing […]
Launching children into adulthood is a major life transition that comes with […]
Have you ever felt stuck in your thoughts, overwhelmed by emotions, or […]
At Big Valley Therapy, therapists do more than just listen — they […]
When you seek therapy, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed or confused about […]
Emotions play a crucial role in how we connect with others and […]
At the heart of society is the family. When we think of […]
Emotions can feel complicated and overwhelming at times. 
But did you […]
But did you […]Emotions are not just a modern-day challenge—they’ve been part of the human […]
“Can’t you just be my therapist?” If you’ve ever asked this […]Attunement is the foundation of emotional intimacy in relationships. It means truly […]
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Fulfilling Prophecies in Mental Health Have you ever noticed how the things you fear the most often […]
Words have power! 
The way we speak to our partner can […]
The way we speak to our partner can […]When a thought, flash, or trigger to view pornography enters your mind, […]
Why Do In-Law Relationships Feel So Hard? Many people experience tension with their in-laws, which can lead to conflict […]
“My Parents Are So Controlling!” (Or Are They?) Teenagers often feel […]When experiencing a relapse or slip-up in sexually compulsive behavior, it’s easy […]
When people first think about the recovery journey for sexually compulsive behavior, […]
In many relationships, especially during arguments, couples often fall into a communication […]
Betrayal trauma can deeply wound the betrayed partner , often triggering intense […]
, often triggering intense […]
Understanding Your Relationship with Money: How It Affects Couples & How Therapy Can Help Money isn’t just about dollars and cents—it’s deeply tied to our emotions, […]
The Power of Living in the Present: Reduce Anxiety and Build Confidence Many individuals experience depressive and anxious symptoms when they struggle […]
depressive and anxious symptoms when they struggle […] Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all. The structure of therapy varies depending on each […]Healing sexual intimacy after betrayal trauma can feel overwhelming. Whether recovering from […]
When it comes to trauma therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) […]
Sexual compulsive behaviors like porn use or infidelity often come from objectification—seeing […]
Understanding Emotional & Physical Connection in Relationships 
Compatibility in relationships is often misunderstood. Many couples think being compatible means […]
Mastering Procrastination: Take Control of Your Time and Priorities 
Procrastination can feel like a never-ending battle. 
How many times have […]
How many times have […]
The Values Pyramid: Your Path to Confidence & Accountability in Recovery 
One of the biggest signs of true recovery is when someone takes […]
“They’re a narcissist.” This phrase comes up often in couples therapy. But […]
When infidelity hits a relationship, emotions can run wild. 
One common […]
One common […]Grief doesn’t simply disappear. It doesn’t get smaller or fade away. Instead, […]
When betrayal happens in a relationship, it can feel like the ground […]
When couples come into therapy after betrayal trauma, they’re often overwhelmed —stuck […]
—stuck […] Why You’re Struggling to Find the Right Partner Dating can feel […]Many people struggling with sexual compulsive behavior recovery often feel trapped —like […]
—like […]
Masturbation without porn is a topic that often comes up in […]
What Does It Mean to Build Confidence? Many people think confidence […]
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a loop? Imagine waking up, […]What is EMDR? 
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing […]
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing […]
Scarcity Mindset and Its Impact on AttachmentWhen we operate from a scarcity […]
Parenting is one of the most important roles we play in life, […]
Many children struggle to maintain a sense of self-worth with all the […]
In today’s digital world, where pornography is everywhere 
and easy to […]
and easy to […]Recovering from infidelity and betrayal is one of the hardest challenges couples […]
Reclaiming Self-Worth: Overcoming People-Pleasing & Sexual Compulsivity 
When you were a […]
When you were a […]The Internal Family Systems (IFS) model teaches us about the Eight C’s […]
When emotions run high in a relationship, even small disagreements can spiral […]
Are you feeling stuck, unmotivated, or creatively blocked? You’re not alone. Porn […]
Pornography use is often misunderstood. While many view it as purely problematic, […]
Many partners wonder, “Why would my loved one relapse into porn use […]
The Power of Language in Recovery When it comes to addiction […]
When it comes to addiction […]
When it comes to coping with porn use, many people say they […]
In every relationship, misunderstanding between impact and intent can lead to endless […]
Have you ever felt vulnerable during moments of boredom or idle time? […]
When an affair happens, it’s easy to point the finger at the […]
When an affair happens, the betrayed partner often asks: “Did you truly […]
A common question couples ask after infidelity is, “Can trust ever be […]
Many people have a basic understanding of the difference between guilt and […]
In relationships, understanding and agreeing are often mixed up. Many couples think […]
Porn addiction can deeply affect your ability to live in alignment with […]
In any relationship, misunderstandings and unintentional hurts are inevitable. These moments often […]
When it comes to overcoming sexually compulsive behavior, two key concepts often […]